It’s 2020!!!!

It’s a New Year!!

I can hardly believe that we are already 4 days into 2020.

Looking back over the last 1.5 to 2 months…I’m in awe.

I’ve enjoyed writing SO much more than I thought I would.

And, I needed some time for reflection and waiting on God.

To reflect on where this blog is going, reflect on what things we need to set up for when we begin traveling, and what things to work on that I am passionate about!!

The details are still being worked out…and I do feel like they are starting to come together.

Before I start releasing any kind of news….

I want to know how your Christmas celebrations were? Did you stick to your plan? Or did you have to adjust?

What about planning for the new year and the new decade?

What goals are you planning for?!

I love the newness and all… I’m also loving to learn the discipline of the day-in-and-day-out. To lean into the mundane….because that is where the real stuff happens.

Advent Calendar and Plan

Ya’ll- I.am.so.excited.

For the first time, I got us “all the things” to lead up to Christmas Day.

I can not wait until December 1st.

Tomorrow, I’ll go live over on my Facebook page to share what I got and where! And also, go over what we will be reading each day from the Bible.

If you haven’t already go like and follow Rooted Mama- and I’ll see ya’ll tomorrow!

HIStory: What’s Your Favorite Part of Your Day (Part 4)

As they are talking, another gentleman and I strike up a short conversation. His order gets called up, so he had to go mid-conversation.

Simultaneously, as we had been talking, another man had caught my eye. He was older, and he had a cane. The younger gentleman I was sitting next to offered his seat, but the older one declined. He waited until the seat became available and plopped down next to me.

By then, most people had cleared out. The older gentleman with the cane very clearly knew the owner. They made jabs at each other back and forth, laughing, and then in between, he would make conversation with me.

During this time, I got to learn a little about the gentleman with the cane, how he had known the owner’s father. But the owner’s father had passed away a month before. He had been sick for a long time. He, himself, had known the owner for a long time.

As we were talking, I get a message from the customer:

“Thank you for being patient. It’s is appreciated and your tip will reflect that.”

“It is my pleasure. Thank you, sir”

As I was telling my husband this story, my eyes welled up…and my voice broke.

Here I was worried about our situation. I was worried and anxious. I, additionally-in my eyes, messed up by canceling this guy’s order. Yet, I got the opportunity to redeem it, and while I waited I got to strike up two conversations. One of them being just the sweetest of conversations. And, I got to bless this man by taking his order to him while he had to work.

And God showed up in so many ways that day.

It is days like that day, that I am glad we have the habit of asking each about our days. I am glad that I got to share what happened in the sweetest moment of that day.

Because on a day where I had a hard time only thinking about myself, and my problems, God opened my eyes. He helped me to slow down, that day. To take time to connect with other people, listen to their stories, and learn about them.

And it’s these stories..the ones that start off with a “me mindset”, that move to an “others mindset”, and eventually the glory goes to a “God mindset”. He gets the focus off of me, back on others and Him…and reminds me that there’s a bigger picture. There’s a story greater than myself. Greater than I could ever imagine or comprehend. A love story. A God story. It’s HISstory.

HIStory: What’s Your Favorite Part of Your Day (Part 3)

I turned around, and headed back to the restaurant.

As I was driving, I got a message from the customer.

He said “I know the line is probably long in the drive-thru. It may be quicker to go inside.”

I messaged back: “Thank you. I went inside, but the line was still long. Do you think it will still go quicker even though the line is really long inside?”

“In my experience, it has.” He replied.

“Ok! I will do that. Thank you for the advice.”

So, I drive into the parking lot. Still no place to park.

But, I see one spot next to the dumpster and the exit to the alley way. I pull in, make sure the tail of the bed of the truck is out of the way, and I walk inside.

As I make my way in, I can see a gentleman walking in front of me. He’s a little older, and clearly physically disabled in some way. He peacefully opens up the order, and insists that I go ahead of him.

“Thank you, sir”. As we walked inside, I motion…”Please, go ahead”

“No, you go ahead.”

“Thanks”

I wait in line. And, finally get the customer’s meal ordered.

As people’s orders come in, and they leave…more room opens up in a crowded waiting space.

I make my way to sit on a bench where a young man is talking to an older woman he is sitting with.

HIStory: What’s your favorite part of your day? (Part 1)

Most days, I ask everyone in our family a variety of questions. Sometimes, it depends on the day, how many and which ones I ask.

Usually, I start with “What’s your favorite part of today?”

I love hearing my husband and my kids’ responses. I can usually have a guess at what each person will say but sometimes, they surprise me.

And sometimes, they ask me back “What was your favorite part of the day?”

One day, my husband and I were getting ready to pick up our kids from school.

We were scrambling to get ready to head out of town for a weekend to head up to my sister and brother in-law’s house.

It’s become a tradition to head up there in November and go to Silver Dollar City and a festival at a local farm, Sycamore Creek Family Ranch ( https://sycamorecreekfamilyranch.com)

What.Just.Happened?

Do you ever have days, and think back….What. Just.Happened?

Today was one of those days.

It started off ok.

Got a little better after church…

And then, went downhill from there.

I don’t even know what happened, except my anxiety kept growing worse and worse.

Every light and sound was over stimulating.

I even missed the mark.

Today, at church, the pastor talked a lot about grace and mercy…and, as I have been laying here, in bed…I read my devotional on YouVerse…and guess what, you guessed it. Giving mercy was the topic of discussion.

I wish that I had read it first thing this morning, though.

Because, even though the anxiety would have been there…maybe, I would have caught on quicker….decompressed quicker, and been able to give my family the grace and mercy quicker.

I’m going to miss the mark. There will be days that my anxiety will go downhill quicker than I can realize, until after its already said and done.

I’ve apologized, and as soon as I realized what was happening…I started the process of calming myself down, and changing my response. That’s all I can do, today.

Thankfully, tomorrow is a new day.

I can avoid as many triggers as I can. Use the tools in my toolbox….

And, we can all start over.

Family Encouragement and Edification

A lot of things that we do in our family have resulted, because of some sort of tension. There’s a problem that isn’t working anymore, and so we’ve had to come up with a new solution.

One week, my boys were constantly fighting…saying not nice things to each other, and would not apologize and forgive each other.

One tip I had read about was how this one family edifies each other. They go around in a circle, and they say something nice about each person.

So, that’s what we did one day.

The boys were fighting, extra that day.

So, I stopped them. Walked them through the problem. Had them apologize and work on forgiving each other.

Then, I said: “Ok, ya’ll are going to look at each other. Hold hands. And, ya’ll are going to say 3 things nice to each other. (And then I gave examples).

So, my youngest son went first. Did his thing, and was waiting for his brother.

And then it was my oldest son’s turn.

He absolutely would not say even one thing nice. He cried. He threw a fit. And he would not say anything.

So, I had my youngest go play, while I had a talk with my oldest.

“Get a piece of paper out. We are going to sit here, and you are going to think of 10 nice things to say about your brother.”

“I don’t want to. Other families don’t do this. I’m too big for this.”

“No sir. You are not. Other families do this. People do this at their jobs, and you are going to think of nice things to say about your brother.”

So, I pulled up a list of characteristics.

And we went through several. I would say “What about ______ is your brother _____?”

“Yes”

Give me an example of a time when he was _____.

1-10.

And we finally got them. Then, I had his brother come back. They sat back down, held hands, again, and he read his list off to his brother.

The next day, we went around the table at supper. We all took time to say something nice, or that we noticed about each other that day.

We did that for a week, or so, until the atmosphere in our house changed.

Now, we don’t always do it every night. But, we still do it. And they love it.

Family Encouragement and Edification has become a special part of our days.