I don’t know about y’all, but 2020 felt like a year of tidal waves crashing in. Knocking me over, getting back up, and getting knocked over again. It felt like a year of events, some of them a long time coming. And so far, 2021 is looking a lot of the same.
Ideally, I would’ve been writing about our experiences and sharing them, throughout the year. However, I’ve learned over the years that I focus best when I’m able to focus on one pressing thing at a time. Therefore, writing has been mostly on the back burner.
And while 2020 felt like monthly tidal waves crashing in, years prior, I felt like I could hardly keep my head above water. Even with a year holding so much devastation, it also brought growth, and respite.
Now that we are finding our rhythm, I’d love to start sharing our journey with you.
Over the last few months, we have spent most places at the minimum in one spot, monthly. When we started traveling more, in August, we only got to see a couple of places – before I got a job work camping for a couple of months.
And now, we are moving more often, hence the lack of writing over the last couple of weeks!
I liked the predictably of staying in one spot monthly. I like being able to see family and friends for longer. . .
And also, I long to be able to travel places we have never been. It’s harder for us to do that, if we are staying places monthly.
For me, I’d like to find a balance of how-long-is-just-long-enough-to-stay-in-one-place, be able to explore, and not stay there too long.
Which is what I think we are on our way to finding!
Anyways. . .Starting our travel, this year of all years, brings its own set of challenges. Just like for everything else. And one thing I’m really good at is giving up when things get hard. Not this year.
This year, is going to be different. I don’t know about you, but I need this year to be different. I need to know that I can push through a tough season. Or that if I fall off the productivity train, I can hop back on. It’s not the end of the world.
I will not give up on writing and my photography. I enjoy it too much.
As we learn our new normal, of moving more often, I’m working on a few posts that I can’t wait to share. My writings just may be a tad off from what my goals are, and I’m deciding that’s just going to have to be ok!
And just know that if you are feeling the same, you can do this!
Y’all know those older metal slides? The ones that are tall, steep, get really hot in the sun, and you go down them really fast?
My daughter had been watching her brothers, among a ton of other kids, go down this slide for the two days.
The first day, I was able to distract her and tell her that I couldn’t take her up it…it was too steep…..
The second day, though….she had enough. She saw that monster of a slide, and began climbing up it confidently. Like she owned it. Like she had done this a thousand times.
After about the second step, I -of course- had to support her all the way to the top…encouraging her all the way up. Going down the slide, with her. It was scary to see this little 2 year old climbing up this mountain of a slide, with no fear, whatsoever.
At the bottom, I realized something. I realized, that I could have missed a great opportunity
An opportunity to empower my daughter to do something big, no matter how big the obstacle.
And since that moment, she has continued to try new and scary things. This little 2 year old is learning the meaning of adventure and explore. She’s learning to conquer.
And these are the moments that make up the saying: Though she may be little, she is fierce.
I love that part of my job as a mom is to nurture our babies into the humans they will become. No matter who I think they should be, or who I want them to be.
If we listen closely, we can tune into who they are, and guide them to become the best version of who they are meant to be. We can teach them how to climb the mountains.
Wow. When I wrote this…it was back around Thanksgiving. I remember this one-two week period, distinctively. It was the moment I realized that I really and truly have to shut down, all of the things, so that I may feel all the feels and sort through all of the thoughts. Now that we are 3 months into Corona time, with all of the things that are currently going on in our world. I’ve realized that there are some amazing people out there who don’t know that what they are going through is ok. What you are feeling is ok. You are not alone. If you are someone who lacks the support you need, I’m working on creating a resources page. If your situation is urgent, I implore you…find and seek help in your local community. In the meantime, I hope this reflection of what I wrote back in November is helpful and brings you hope.
Anxiety and Self-care:
Over these last couple of weeks, I felt myself winding up…anxiety wise. I couldn’t figure out what was going on…but I felt like I needed to slow down. So, I did.
I allowed myself to not go full steam ahead.
I allowed myself to slow down and tune in.
If I didn’t feel like writing, I didn’t. In fact, I slowed down to pretty much only my 30 Days of Thankfulness that I was 100% committed to.
I slowed down on house work—to what needed immediate attention…
You know, I have talked about my “5 Daily Things” I started making progress towards, after hearing John Maxwell speak this summer…and for 2 weeks…I didn’t focus on those at all.
And that’s fine. I needed to slow down and figure out what was triggering me.
It took a couple of weeks, and one good night of crying…but I finally figured it out and got all of that anxiety tension released.
We really need to make ourselves, and listening to our bodies a priority.
When we are taking care of ourselves, we are better able to take care of others.
There is room and grace for survival mode.
There is room and grace for missing out on taking care of ourselves. It happens.
But, once we cue in…we can slow down to figure out what’s going on. And what we need to do.
Check out the article. Tell me what you think. I’ve tried all of these tips and agree.
It’s funny, because I used to hate yoga for exercise. It felt slow and awkward. But last year, I tried it for a season and loved it. It was just what I needed..and I’ve been missing it, since I gave it up last summer.
When you think about self care, don’t be surprised if something you used to hate or would never think about doing for you turns into a something you like.
If something crosses your mind to try…try it.
If you’re a mama-or someone who needs self care, but doesn’t have a budget to spend on yourself…don’t worry.
When I started my self-care journey I had to get creative, because we didn’t have the budget for me to go get massages, pedicures, and the like every week.
I’ll share resources on some budget friendly and simple ways to find self-care. As well as, things that are self-care that you may not have thought about. I certainly didn’t.