Self-care Day 6

Today has had some rough parts, more than I anticipated. But, I felt like, for the most part, what the kids and I are working on I’m thankful for my workout last night! I felt like I had more energy today, and am looking forward to my workout tonight.

I’m also excited, because I got a new book that I’m excited to read! It’s my first fiction book in a suuuper long time!!

Today, self-care looked like running errands.

For me, sometimes I can let things that overwhelm me, allow me to shut down. But, I’ve learned that when I take actions steps, that helps me to overcome and draw out of that “shut down” mode.

Self Care Day 3

I didn’t fall asleep until after 2 am this morning…so, self-care today, looked like sleeping until 10 am.

Thankfully, my hubby works completely from home, now. Otherwise, that wouldn’t have been possible.

Over the years, I’ve learned that making sure I get enough sleep is sooo important.

So, in previous seasons, I have napped when the kids were napping.

Or, when my hubby has gotten home from work.

It makes for a weird schedule, sometimes…but, I’d rather have a weird schedule, every now and then- and be able to show up for my hubby, kids, family, and friends….than be frazzled and burnt out.

Making sure I have enough sleep also helps me be able to cope with anxiety, better.

I’m learning that I need to be in tune with each day, to know what I need each day to care for myself.

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I was getting better at this….

“Your homework is to spend at least an hour, a week, doing something for you”. I had just gotten done telling my counselor that I wake up, go to work, eat, sleep, repeat. “Well, that’s no way to live. No wonder why you’re so anxious”.

I was in my first two years of teaching, we just had our second baby, and my husband broke his leg. And, I was barely hanging on by a thread. I had let so many other things take priority…and I had forgotten, not only who I was, but what gave my life joy.

So, after my counselor “gave me homework”….I didn’t really know where to start…I remember asking friends… “What do people do for themselves??” I had no idea what I liked. So, I set out to learn.

My husband would often kick me out of the house, for me time, and I would go try stuff…anything…

Enjoy a dinner by myself and read a book, at Wingstop.

Pedicure.

Meet up with friends.

Go on a run.

Go sit by the river and take pictures.

Go on a drive.

And, on the days that I had the kids by myself, I’d stay up a little bit later and:

Watch a movie or tv show.
Journal.
Spend time in the word, or just listen to worship music.
Bubble Bath.

Switching from a smart phone to a regular phone.


Dictionary.com defines self-care as the practice of taking an active role in one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during times of stress.

So, why is self-care important?!
Well, I can only answer that from a place of personal experience.
When I’m not taking care of myself…I’m not myself. I am more anxious. I get more snippy and frazzled. My body is constantly tense. And, when I’m in that state of mind…I can’t be who I’m made to be as a person, wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, society member. I can’t be who I’m made to be for this world.

And lately, I have not been doing what I can to make sure I’m taking care of myself? Honestly, right now it’s just so hard. It’s not as easy. I can’t just go grab a cup of coffee and sit and chat with a friend. Or go grab wingstop and read a book. Or go to a yoga class.

And the self-care that I typically do at home, well…we live in a super small space, and it’s just harder. (Yes…I know that I chose this life..and no…that doesn’t make it any easier).

We are in a major transition period, and I’m finding with each passing day, that I really need to be making time to take care of myself.

It takes 21 days to create a new habit. I really need something to focus on, something steady that I can control. And, for those in that moment..asking that same question I was asking… “What do people do for themselves??” I want to give resources and ideas…because stuff like this sure did help me, when I was first starting out….

So, I’m going to a 90 day self-care challenge.

I’ll post once a day on what self-care I chose, and how I felt at the end of the day.

Talk Soon,

Rooted Mama

Anxiety and self care

Wow. When I wrote this…it was back around Thanksgiving. I remember this one-two week period, distinctively. It was the moment I realized that I really and truly have to shut down, all of the things, so that I may feel all the feels and sort through all of the thoughts. Now that we are 3 months into Corona time, with all of the things that are currently going on in our world. I’ve realized that there are some amazing people out there who don’t know that what they are going through is ok. What you are feeling is ok. You are not alone. If you are someone who lacks the support you need, I’m working on creating a resources page. If your situation is urgent, I implore you…find and seek help in your local community. In the meantime, I hope this reflection of what I wrote back in November is helpful and brings you hope.

Anxiety and Self-care:

Over these last couple of weeks, I felt myself winding up…anxiety wise. I couldn’t figure out what was going on…but I felt like I needed to slow down. So, I did.

I allowed myself to not go full steam ahead.

I allowed myself to slow down and tune in.

If I didn’t feel like writing, I didn’t. In fact, I slowed down to pretty much only my 30 Days of Thankfulness that I was 100% committed to.

I slowed down on house work—to what needed immediate attention…

You know, I have talked about my “5 Daily Things” I started making progress towards, after hearing John Maxwell speak this summer…and for 2 weeks…I didn’t focus on those at all.

And that’s fine. I needed to slow down and figure out what was triggering me.

It took a couple of weeks, and one good night of crying…but I finally figured it out and got all of that anxiety tension released.

I love this article about anxiety and self-care.

We really need to make ourselves, and listening to our bodies a priority.

When we are taking care of ourselves, we are better able to take care of others.

There is room and grace for survival mode.

There is room and grace for missing out on taking care of ourselves. It happens.

But, once we cue in…we can slow down to figure out what’s going on. And what we need to do.

Check out the article. Tell me what you think. I’ve tried all of these tips and agree.

It’s funny, because I used to hate yoga for exercise. It felt slow and awkward. But last year, I tried it for a season and loved it. It was just what I needed..and I’ve been missing it, since I gave it up last summer.

When you think about self care, don’t be surprised if something you used to hate or would never think about doing for you turns into a something you like.

If something crosses your mind to try…try it.

If you’re a mama-or someone who needs self care, but doesn’t have a budget to spend on yourself…don’t worry.

When I started my self-care journey I had to get creative, because we didn’t have the budget for me to go get massages, pedicures, and the like every week.

I’ll share resources on some budget friendly and simple ways to find self-care. As well as, things that are self-care that you may not have thought about. I certainly didn’t.

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Health Journal: Reboot

So, over the days that I was doing the Health Journal…I realized that the format for all of the “categories” wasn’t working for me.

I’m honestly not in a tension spot to change my nutrition, at the current moment…so, I’m going to focus my journals, going forward, on progress of the actions I am ready to make.

I love that this is a journey…and I get to decide what I am ready for…and what I’m not ready for—-and all of that is just fine! It’s ok that I’m not ready to focus on nutrition, yet. It will come…and right now, I will focus on the things that I am ready for.

Here are my new categories.

Feel free to follow along with me in whatever capacity you’re ready for.

Today’s Date:

Activities:

Steps:

Step Goal:

-Water Intake-

-Supplements

How do I feel?

Areas for growth:

Weight:

Non-scale victory:

Health and Wellness Journal

Today’s Date: 11/10/19

Activities: Does chasing kids count? (It was a tough afternoon, y’all)

Food:

-Breakfast: Eggo Waffles with Honey, butter, and cinnamon sugar

-Lunch: Lunch meat and cheese sliders

-Supper: Spaghetti sprinkled with cheese and salt, a tablespoon of pumpkin seeds

-Snacks: lemon cake square, Hershey’s milk choc bar, snickers, sm pkg of skittles

-Drinks: Gatorade, Coffee with Silk Almond creamer and truvia, 20 Oz Water, 10 oz dr pepper

-Supplements: Fruit and Veggie Capsules, Omega Capsules

How do I feel? High anxiety this afternoon, hence the choc, Dr Pepper and skittles

Areas for growth: Nutrition, taking supplements daily, switching unhealthy habits for healthy habits on high anxiety days

Weight:

Non-scale victory:

Health and Wellness Journal

Today’s Date: 11/9/2019

Activities: .5 mile walk

Food:

-Breakfast: donuts

-Lunch- fettuccine, corn, peas

-supper- rotisserie chicken, fettuccine, corn, peas

-drinks- mostly cranberry juice, and Gatorade, one cup of coffee with creamer and sugar in the raw

How do I feel? Today, I felt more energized. Especially after my walk.

Areas for growth: walk longer, and at a quicker pace; drink more water

Weight: 173

Non-scale victory:

Health Journal Template

Here is my Health Journal Template:

Today’s Date:

Activities:

Food:

-Breakfast

-Lunch

-Supper

-Snacks

-Drinks

How do I feel?

Areas for growth:

Weight:

Non-scale victory:

I’m not big on keeping a scale. I get too obsessive and anxious when I keep a scale. I know approximately what I currently weigh, because I’ve been to the doctor recently. So, I’ll post now what I’m counting as my stating weight…and anytime I get an update on it, I’ll post. But, mostly that part of the entry will be empty. I’ll focus on non-scale victories.

If you want to join me with your own private journal, feel free to use my template…or find something else that works for you!

Also- if you do join me on this journey! I’d love your comments or an email about how your doing!

Email me @ rootedmama88@gmail.com

Striving for Wellness

Striving for wellness…..It has been a struggle. And, I keep coming back to it….because, health and wellness is important to me.

Part of my struggle is I feel like I have to have the perfect situation to be able to move forward, when in reality, all I need to do is show up.

I need to show up to make healthier nutrition choices.

I need to show up to make healthier lifestyle choices…another round of Hulu…or get that workout in.

A couple of days ago…I half- way showed up.

I did half of a home workout, doing all of the moves half-way.

But, I was glad I did it…because I got my body moving…

And, for some reason…I was having a block…I was making excuses as to why I couldn’t do my home workouts.

And then…I was like…STOP. This is silly…so, I went and did it.

It wasn’t perfect..in fact…far from it…but I did it.

And you can too.

If you are waiting for the perfect situation, like I was…that moment is never going to come…you just have to jump in and do it.

Eventually, you will get where you want to be…but first, you have to start somewhere…

This time, as I jump back into my wellness journey…I want to keep a journal of it.

So, be on the look out for a daily Health and Wellness Journal. It’s mostly for accountability, for me…and a record of my journey…but hopefully, it can also be something for someone out there.

Let’s do this together!

One Thing: Health and wellness/ Exercise

Background:

Growing up I liked junk food. It was good, and so I ate it.

In college, I’m pretty sure I ate 3 meals a day from the drive-thru. Don’t judge me. (Yup, I saw the gasp and horrified look in your eyes-haha) It was just so easy.

I also started thinking about the things that went into my body. Through classes and seeing all these recalls on products, my eyes were opened to the fact that all these things entering my body…may not be the best thing for me.

As we got married and starting having kids, we still went through the dive-thru some, but not as much.

When my oldest was about 1.5, we went and watched my brother-in-law run a half-marathon. He had also recently become a vegetarian, and then soon after, vegan. That weekend, my husband and I went home and decided to make some changes. We watched a documentary called “Forks Over Knives”. We, cold turkey, stopped eating meat. We gave away all the meat we had left over. And…we started running and hiking.

With my pregnancy with my second son, I was more anemic, more foggy brained, and had more postpartum depression. Just before I found out I was pregnant with him is when I had my last long run of 10+ miles. And to this day, I miss it.

Shortly after he was born, I found one of two health and wellness companies that I love.

Since then, I have been in and out of making healthy decisions for me and my family.

I’ve learned a lot.

And now, it’s time to move forward.

So, what did the process look like?

* For a solid year, I was making great choices and learning a lot about what it meant to support my body. We were running all.the.time. And, participating in races. But, in all honesty…I let it get to my head…I was a little too prideful.

* With the postpartum depression, I had to put all my focus and energy on healing my mind. So, nutrition and exercise growth went right out the window.

* I’ve spent the past 6 years doing heart work, and mind work…exercising as a stress reliever. I’ve found that I like home works outs, yoga, running, hiking, and kayaking.

* So, now I’m ready to move forward.

Going on:

*My first step is to start exercising every day, again. Although, this time, with a little more love for myself. I was hard on myself last time, and I’ve learned a lot about loving myself in the process.

*Right now, I am up to walking 2-3 times a week.

*Once I get my daily exercise down, all my other goals should naturally fall into place….but here they are

Health goals:

*Eat more natural, less processed

*Lose about 40-50 lbs.

* Exercise daily with running and cross-training.

* Share my love of wellness with others!

* Drink 1/2 my weight, in oz, of water, daily.

Have you been overwhelmingly searching for ways to support wellness in your life?

I encourage you to take it One Thing at a time. Love yourself in the process. Share what you love and learn with someone else- just be sure that they are looking for it, too.