The plan

Life is so weird….especially life in 2020…

Early in my 20s…it’d make me anxious if things didn’t go according to plan. I’d cling to the plan, and act like a toddler (if not outwardly, definitely inwardly) when things didn’t go how they were “supposed to go”.

I like to know what “the plan” is. I don’t like going into things blindly.

Somewhere, over time, I started to let go. If plans change, more often than not. . .I’m able to wing it. I think it was almost a coping mechanism. I couldn’t hold onto the stress of things not going my way, anymore.

So, I stopped making long term plans.

For my kids’ birthdays, I started planning last minute. And for most anything, it seems like my best plans always come together last minute, anyways.

When we started “planning” our road trip, I was so excited!! After years of not planning super far ahead, we had this plan of where we would go, and when we would be there. It was a general plan, but it was a plan that was starting to come together.

And then, 2020 happened. And I have to laugh. Because, like for everyone else this year. . .2020 has definitely not gone according to plan.

Through this year, I’ve been reminded of why exactly it is, I’m more of a “wing-it” girl.

The last couple of months have reminded me that not clinging to my plan, allows for God’s plan to unfold. And, His plan always ends up better than mine!!

Traveling….finally

I was beginning to think that I’d never get to say that we were really traveling. . .

There for awhile, we were bouncing from Texas to Missouri, and back.

But, the last two months, we really started traveling, and have been able to have more adventures.

Never in my life, did I think we’d get to say that we had your traditional summer nights. . .cooking s’mores and going swimming. . . AND get to see snow ( real snow) all in one summer!!

We also got to go see the St. Louis Arch!! That’s one place that we really wanted to take the kids!! The tram was still not up and going (COVID), but it was a great experience for them-nonetheless. I can’t wait to take them back, when they can see from the top of the Arch!! We also found Cardinal Stadium.

I love how much a lot of our adventures turn into learning experiences, as well!! This is what I dreamed! That my kids would be able to learn about the world through traveling experiences!!

Self-care: Days 20-40

Once self-care became a habit, again. . .it was pretty much more of the same. . .

I was able to take a deep breath. . . Look around. . .and figure out what my body and mind needed that day.

I’m so thankful for that journey, because it prepared me for an unexpected transition in our family.

Some days are harder than others, but I was able to transition from a more loving place. If I had not already prioritized self-care, our transition would have been much harder.

How has self-care helped you?!

Resource: Podcast

I’ve taken more time than I wanted to start sharing resources. . .But, I’ve wanted to make sure and listen to, read, and research before sharing.

Because podcasts are sooo easy to listen to, this is where I’ve started!!

Some time ago, I asked some friends for some recommendations on resources to share for anxiety, depression, and motherhood.

And they shared some real gems.

These are the two I’ve started listening to:

Untangle:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untangle/id1073460738?i=1000360413196

This podcast is a great resource, when it comes to mental health. The episodes in this podcast talk about the science of meditation and the benefits it has on our bodies.

Natal:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/natal/id1508013775?i=1000479392069

This podcast tells stories of black women and their experiences of pregnancy. It is super informative. I’ve learned so much.

What I love about these two podcasts, are that they share stories.

I firmly believe that sharing our stories not only brings us healing, it brings hope and healing to others who are experiencing things we have walked through.

I hope that you will enjoy these podcasts.

Self-Care: Days 10-18

Last week was super busy. In some good ways. . .and in some ways hard.

My husband and I had a lot of work and projects that overlapped. With all 5 of us being home, makes for tricky scheduling. We learned a lot about taking turns to get work done.

I was so thankful I’d already had a good week of concentrated self-care.

There was a natural transition into automatically doing self-care throughout the day.

I finished my read and finished my first fiction book. I was so proud of this, because I haven’t read fiction in such a long time. There was a sense of accomplishment. I FINISHED something.

I’ve learned that when anxiety is high, fear stops me from doing things. Most of the time, action helps me to overcome that fear. Completing a task helps me overcome that fear. Even the simplest of tasks.

Self-care I’ve been doing this past week:

* Brushing my teeth

* Taking a shower

* Reading

* Listening to podcasts

* Playing worship music

* Time with Jesus

* Joining a virtual retreat with other moms- I didn’t get to spend the amount of time I wanted to this week to dive in deep. So, I’m looking forward to the next one!!

Some important takeaways from this week:

*Some of these self-care “activities” are not always self-care. If I’m doing good, brushing my teeth and taking a shower are just every day routine. But, on days when I’m not feeling it, things like brushing my teeth, taking a shower, and putting on a little make-up makes a world of difference.

* It’s super important for my kids and my husband to have self-care as well.

* Self-care resources are important and need to be shared!!

So, going forward in this 40 day self-care challenge, I’m going to start sharing resources that have been shared with me! I hope they will be helpful to you all!!