When grasping at straws…

Purpose-the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists. (Dictionary.com)

Today, I am struggling. I am struggling to know which direction to take a step.

I know that I am made for a purpose. I know I have a purpose….. Do you ever get stuck in this spot: “What the heck am I supposed to be doing with my life?

That’s where I am right now. I have all of these things that I know that I am passionate about and good at.

But, how do I combine them to give them life and meaning to others? How do I use them to bring in income to help provide for my family, and the lifestyle we will be living? How do I…..?

I start grasping at straws.

I sit and mope.

I allow myself to get distracted.

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When I get in this spot…sometimes, it’s hard to remember…that all I have to do…is just to do. Do something. One thing….anything. Anything to make progress towards the BIG PICTURE. (I tend to get focused on the big picture and can’t see the small steps to get there).

I have said, written, and posted this so many times. Because I keep needing to hear it, think about it, and process it.

The good news is, when I have these moments. Moments of grasping, moping, and distracting…I am starting to get quicker at redirecting myself. Moments that used to take months, years… are now taking days, hours. One day- it will take minutes, then seconds.

Hopefully, over the coming weeks and months, I will be able to share the big picture with you all….but,

If there is anything that you take away from this, I hope you know that you can do it, too. You can take action. You can take steps towards your big picture. All of the lies you are believing don’t have to rein your thoughts.

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Are you trying to figure something new out? For the hundredth time? Do you feel like you keep failing? Do you keep putting something down, to pick it up and put it back down again?

That’s ok!

Each time you do, you learn something new. Take that lesson, and apply it-each time you pick whatever that thing is back up. Be kind on yourself in the process.

During this journey, I have found that the best action against whatever it is your are “fighting” (anxiety, fear, etc.) is to take action. Do something. Do anything (that is legal, moral, ethical, and productive) to get you one step closer to your goal. Along the way, you will find your purpose.

Make that call. Write that email. Take that picture. Walk that lap.

Most of all, enjoy the process. (I know! Easier said than done-but you can do that, too!)

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Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.

-Rooted Mama

Your Goals

One thing I’m learning is that the goals we set don’t have to be grandiose. They don’t have to be loud. They don’t even have to be linear, following a specific track.

Write them down. And, also enjoy the journey. Know that if it doesn’t happen in the exact time frame you thought or how you thought, it still happens- and that’s something you should be proud of.

You can hustle. . . you can also take it slow.

Some seasons, your goals can be fluid.

This past year has taught me, that sometimes, goals happen long after you wrote the plan. Long after you changed the behaviors. Long after you’ve re-trained your brain. Long after you’ve done the front-end work.

So, set your goals. But, breathe. And be ok with them not happening on your time table. Because, sometimes, they don’t.

21 Days of Christmas: Days 8-15

Well, I lost track of time this past week, with it being the week of Christmas, and didn’t keep up with the 21 Days of Showing Kindness through Christmas, and into the New Year.

If you’re like me, you can get off track, and start again when you can! The goal is to keep going, even when you have to take a short break. . .

With that, here we go!

Day 8- Bring someone joy by painting a rock, and hide it somewhere in your community for someone to find.

Day 9- Leaving encouraging post-it notes in random places. Maybe at your work, the grocery store. Get creative!

Day 10- if you go out to eat, find out when your favorite restaurant has their weekly special. Order off of the special menu. Your bill will be lower. But don’t stop there! Leave a larger tip than you would normally be able to for your waiter, with an encouraging note on the receipt!!

Day 11- bring someone their favorite drink and snack!

Day 12- when you’re grateful for something that someone has done. Tell them “thank you”, and why you are glad they are in your life.

Day 13- compliment someone. Did they do a great job at work? Did they take out the trash? Did they go above and beyond? Did they show up? Let them know you noticed!

Day 14- bring the people in your office breakfast. Donuts, anyone?!

Day 15-going through the drive through? pay for the next person in line’s coffee. If you can only lend a small amount- that’s ok. Ask the barista if someone has ordered with the amount you can give, or pay towards someone’s order!

Times can be rough. Just remember to keep spreading the kindness!!

21 Days of Christmas: Day 4

Our acts of kindness and compassion can bring hope to other people, chipping away at the anger and hardness in their hearts.

People go through so much. Often times, people need just a little bit of grace and love.

All too often, we are reallly hard on people on social media. Hiding behind the screen, it’s easy to call people trolls and snowflakes.

But, what if, we just kept on scrolling. People spend hours a day arguing with strangers on the internet. And I truly don’t understand why. I can guarantee that arguing with each other on social media isn’t going to change anyone’s mind.

So, for Day 4- let’s bypass that strangers comment. Just keep on scrolling if we disagree- or at least be kind in our conversations with strangers on the internet.

After all, we don’t know what other people are going or have been through. They just may need an extra dose of kindness today!

21 Days of Christmas: Day 3

I don’t know about you, 9x out of 10, if I’m in a hurry- my hands are full with kids in tow.

Most places I go, now, have automatic doors, curbside, or drive through. That’s because I tend to frequent places that help make life a little easier.

However, there was a time that I had: my large bag, a baby bag, and 1, 2, or 3 kids.

And, I don’t know if you’ve ever had your hands full, when a stranger holds a door open for you. . . But it’s small things, like holding a door open where people find hope in humanity.

So, for Day 3- Let’s do it. Hold open that door, wish them a great day, and smile!

21 Days of Christmas: Day 2

Kindness is like a warm hug.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been blown away by the kindness of strangers.

And the best part, is that it doesn’t cost a single thing.

There have been many instances when a friend or family member sent me an encouraging text, or called me at just the right time.

So, today send someone an encouraging note. Let them know how awesome you think they are. If you know the struggles they have going on in their life, speak life into those situations.

21 Days of Christmas: Day 1

The theme of 21 Days of Christmas is kindness. I believe at the root of kindness is hope and love. We will start with showing ourselves kindness!!

This weekend, my kids have been with my in-laws. Today, I was going to take a day to get it all done. Did that happen? No.

I didn’t change out of my pajamas today. I lounged around, watched Christmas movies, and my husband slept. All.day. We both needed a day of complete rest.

To be honest, with traveling and COVID, we haven’t had many days without any of our kids. I didn’t realize just how worn out we were.

When you are that worn out. It is super hard to pour into others. It’s hard to show love and kindness, when you are running on empty.

So, for day 1: Take time for yourself. Get rejuvenated and refreshed, as best you can with the resources you have.

Take a nap. Read a book. Go on a walk. Do nothing. Whatever it is for you. Do it. Because, you can’t show others love and kindness well, unless you are doing it for yourself first.

21 Days of Christmas

This year has been hard, there’s no doubt about that. There’s been hardship for practically everyone this year. Fighting a world pandemic. An intense election. Much needed fight for social justice.

So much division.

I feel like this year was inevitable.

Over the past 10 years, it has seemed that each passing year there’s been more anger, more division in the US and across the world. It feels as though this year was the eruption point. The lava has been building for years, and now it’s seems everyone is shouting and not many are listening and doing, and frankly showing love to others.

What if we took the next 21 days, and created a new habit to love others when we disagree, even if we don’t want to.

Ya’ll. This is hard. Yet, I know that if we dig deep, find it within ourselves to say “enough is enough”, we can make a greater change and impact in our social circles. When we do that, I know it’ll make a big difference.

Now, I know I’m writing and sharing this later than I planned. The beauty is. . .we can take 21 days of Christmas and extend that into 2021 when most people feel the hope of Christmas leading up to Christmas Day, and the “magic” fades away. Let’s take that “magic” and keep spreading into the new year and beyond.

December!!!

I’m not really sure how we are already over a week into December. . . And, I just wanted to send well wishes out to you all!! I hope that you are receiving joy, hope, and love. That you see light in the world.

It seems like there are a lot of people who need to feel the love.

A lot of people going through tough times.

And, I know, I know- that’s honestly been the theme of 2020. It’s been a tough year for all.

Through these types of seasons- It’s easy to get stuck inside our own thoughts and our own problems. What if we saw the opportunity in this last month, of this ridiculously hard year to spend each day, of the rest of the year gifting love, compassion, and kindness.

And then, carried it over into next year!

That’s what this season is about!

It takes 21 days to make a habit. So. Let’s take 21 days of Christmas, and give the gift of love, compassion, and kindness. Let’s show up, and come together. Let’s show up, and show the people in our world love.

Stay tuned.