Travel and transition

Over the last few months, we have spent most places at the minimum in one spot, monthly. When we started traveling more, in August, we only got to see a couple of places – before I got a job work camping for a couple of months.

And now, we are moving more often, hence the lack of writing over the last couple of weeks!

I liked the predictably of staying in one spot monthly. I like being able to see family and friends for longer. . .

And also, I long to be able to travel places we have never been. It’s harder for us to do that, if we are staying places monthly.

For me, I’d like to find a balance of how-long-is-just-long-enough-to-stay-in-one-place, be able to explore, and not stay there too long.

Which is what I think we are on our way to finding!

Anyways. . .Starting our travel, this year of all years, brings its own set of challenges. Just like for everything else. And one thing I’m really good at is giving up when things get hard. Not this year.

This year, is going to be different. I don’t know about you, but I need this year to be different. I need to know that I can push through a tough season. Or that if I fall off the productivity train, I can hop back on. It’s not the end of the world.

I will not give up on writing and my photography. I enjoy it too much.

As we learn our new normal, of moving more often, I’m working on a few posts that I can’t wait to share. My writings just may be a tad off from what my goals are, and I’m deciding that’s just going to have to be ok!

And just know that if you are feeling the same, you can do this!

Just don’t give up!

Mountain Climbing

Y’all know those older metal slides? The ones that are tall, steep, get really hot in the sun, and you go down them really fast?

My daughter had been watching her brothers, among a ton of other kids, go down this slide for the two days.

The first day, I was able to distract her and tell her that I couldn’t take her up it…it was too steep…..

The second day, though….she had enough. She saw that monster of a slide, and began climbing up it confidently. Like she owned it. Like she had done this a thousand times.

After about the second step, I -of course- had to support her all the way to the top…encouraging her all the way up. Going down the slide, with her. It was scary to see this little 2 year old climbing up this mountain of a slide, with no fear, whatsoever.

At the bottom, I realized something. I realized, that I could have missed a great opportunity

An opportunity to empower my daughter to do something big, no matter how big the obstacle.

And since that moment, she has continued to try new and scary things. This little 2 year old is learning the meaning of adventure and explore. She’s learning to conquer.

And these are the moments that make up the saying: Though she may be little, she is fierce.

I love that part of my job as a mom is to nurture our babies into the humans they will become. No matter who I think they should be, or who I want them to be.

If we listen closely, we can tune into who they are, and guide them to become the best version of who they are meant to be. We can teach them how to climb the mountains.

The Why Behind the Writing

Hi! My name is Jessica, and I am Rooted Mama!!

Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve noticed some new faces around here. . .so, I thought I’d introduce myself.

My family and I travel full-time. We homeschool while on the road, and we work remotely. And sometimes, we work camp!!

I started writing years ago, because I needed an outlet. Writing is therapeutic for me. I internalize my thoughts over and over again. Which, cranks up my anxiety.

SO, I started writing as a way to get those thoughts out of my head. To process. To verbalize all that internal thinking.

I’ve found that I love writing about a whole host of topics: anxiety/depression/mental health, marriage, parenting, education and homeschool, health and wellness, my walk with Jesus. . .and I LOVE sharing my passion of photography.

So, welcome AND thank you for following along this journey!! I’m humbled that you choose to take the time out of your day to read and join along!

Relationships

I could write a novel on just how bad I am at relationships. But. . .there is good news. I’m sure there are some out there reading this. . .thinking. . . “I am right there with you. I am no good at relationships”.

The good news is that:

*You don’t have to always be where you are. You’re not a tree, if you don’t like where you are, then move. Meaning. . .you may not be great at relationships right now, but you can be.

*You don’t have to have a ton of friends to be good at relationships. You don’t even have to have a ton of people. When we love the people we are entrusted to; whether that be a greeter at Walmart, the person driving next to us on the road, or people in our daily lives, the impact of Jesus on them can far exceed us trying to make a million friends on social media.

*You don’t have to feel the pressure to get it right, every time. We are human. We are going to mess up. There is room for grace, repentance, and forgiveness.

All we have to do is say “yes” to the very next thing in front of us. Say “yes” to working on what God has called you to. Say “yes” to work on that character trait you feel like you just don’t have down quite yet. Say “less of me and more of You, Jesus”. Say “yes” to taking our pain in relationships, only to Jesus. Little by little. . .all of the things we work on become noticeable. People will recognize it. Our efforts become recognized. Trust builds. Or builds, again.

I firmly believe that when we work on ourselves, first, that overflows into our relationships. When we work on ourselves, first, it changes the dynamic of our relationships and our situations.

If you don’t know how to do that. . .take a look around you. You are most like the 5 people you are around on a daily basis. Surround yourself with 5 people that have those things that you want to work on down. Learn from them. Observe how they handle the situations you struggle with. Use that or adapt it to fit you (in a healthy way). We want to learn from them, while still remaining true to who we are.

And. . .by the way. . .this should be an ongoing process. We should strive for a growth mindset, daily. There will times where we get stuck, and that’s ok. That’s why we surround ourselves with community. Iron sharpens iron.

The Pain You’re Feeling

11 years ago, this girl had NO IDEA that the pain she was going to walk through over the next few months and years….it would be hard. It would be dark. It would affect her relationship with her fiancé. It would affect her future pregnancies. It would take time to heal herself, and her future marriage.

If you have lost a baby- no matter how long you knew you were pregnant… your pain is real. I have no words for the hurt and pain you are feeling, because although I have been there…your story is different than mine.

If you’ve been feeling the hurt and the pain for days, weeks, months, years…yes, even after you’ve welcomed other children into the world…know that you are not alone.

I can’t promise anything to you. I can’t promise you a rainbow baby. I can’t promise the hurt will never go away. I can’t promise that around certain dates your mood won’t be affected.

But there is one who is a promise keeper. And it may not feel like it now, but He is sitting with you through your pain.

And if you allow it…the pain you are going through can allow you to grow, heal, and see that the days that were associated with deep grief and hurt…new days come and they can be associated with joy, love, and peace.

The plan

Life is so weird….especially life in 2020…

Early in my 20s…it’d make me anxious if things didn’t go according to plan. I’d cling to the plan, and act like a toddler (if not outwardly, definitely inwardly) when things didn’t go how they were “supposed to go”.

I like to know what “the plan” is. I don’t like going into things blindly.

Somewhere, over time, I started to let go. If plans change, more often than not. . .I’m able to wing it. I think it was almost a coping mechanism. I couldn’t hold onto the stress of things not going my way, anymore.

So, I stopped making long term plans.

For my kids’ birthdays, I started planning last minute. And for most anything, it seems like my best plans always come together last minute, anyways.

When we started “planning” our road trip, I was so excited!! After years of not planning super far ahead, we had this plan of where we would go, and when we would be there. It was a general plan, but it was a plan that was starting to come together.

And then, 2020 happened. And I have to laugh. Because, like for everyone else this year. . .2020 has definitely not gone according to plan.

Through this year, I’ve been reminded of why exactly it is, I’m more of a “wing-it” girl.

The last couple of months have reminded me that not clinging to my plan, allows for God’s plan to unfold. And, His plan always ends up better than mine!!